Love, Life and Health
A time for change
By Jorge Diaz, MSW, Clinical Social Worker
New Year’s Eve, a new beginning, a new attempt at changing our lives. Why do we make new year’s resolutions? Resolutions can be a great way to project for a better year, reflecting on the past might allow you to work on issues impacting your life in the present, and hopefully if you begin to work on “you” then maybe a better future lies ahead. What purpose do resolutions have? Are they achievable? Before you start planning on how to change your life or make 2016 a better year, take a moment to reflect on life and everything that occurred in 2015. Why do you aspire for change? What actually needs to change? What did you learn about yourself this year? What challenges did you face? What successes did you celebrate? What changed in 2015 that may impact 2016? Many faced a variety of struggles this year, maybe an HIV diagnosis, a relationship ended or maybe you decided to come out with your sexual orientation.
Whatever the case may be, life is about change. However, change is not easy for many. Is it because we don’t like change, or is it because we are not prepared for it? What is it about change that we struggle with? Reflect on 2015 and ask yourself, what you can do better for “you”-not for your family, not for your partner, but for yourself. Self-work is not an easy task, however, how can we plan for a better 2016 without reflecting on our behaviors, decisions and choices in 2015? How do we do better? What is better? Whose standards are you trying to meet? If change is driven to please others or to fulfill other’s expectations, ask yourself, is this healthy? Whatever the change you are planning to make, think about why you are attempting to make that change. What purpose does this resolution have? Reflect on 2015, what in your life made you unhappy this year that shouldn’t continue in 2016? Reflecting on 2015 may allow you to begin your journey of self-acceptance, healing and maybe self-forgiveness or forgiveness of others. Before we can please others, before we can love others, and certainly before we can make others happy, we must start with ourselves. Change begins with and in you. The first step to making change needs to come from you and only to benefit you; putting other’s before you might not be the healthiest way of thinking….